Wedding Irony

This may come off as a rant to some people, but that’s because it is a rant. Recently I went to a wedding at a Catholic church. Nothing super exciting or especially interesting until I happened to notice something. One of the family members of the bride happened to be wearing one of the shortest dresses I had ever seen someone read whether in or out of a church. Now as someone who’s not religious, the length of the dress being worn in a church didn’t bother me, what bothered me is the situation in which she was wearing said dress. It made it even worse when, at about three quarters of the way through the wedding ceremony, she is invited to the pupil to read a couple of passages out of the bible. One of these verses which she read happens to deal with modesty of all things. It was at this moment that I couldn’t help but chuckle a bit and was immediately and forcefully jabbed in the ribs but multiple women sitting around me. Maybe nobody else happened to catch the amount of irony that was flowing through the room at the time? Either way, it just started making me think about weddings in general, especially religious weddings.


“I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.”

1 Timother 2:9 (NIV)


It is because of Bible verses such as this one that has caused me to giggle when I go to weddings, especially very lavish Christian weddings. I come from the school of thought that if you are going to talk to the talk, you should probably also walk the walk. However, you don’t often see much of that coming from religiously backed wedding ceremonies. Sure, there is the traditional changing of the guard from father of the bride to the groom, there is the tradition of brides wearing white as a sign of purity, etc. But how many of these should truly apply to modern weddings? Take brides wearing white for instance. Does anyone bat an eye when a bride isn’t a virgin, yet is still wearing white? The whole point of the white wedding dress is supposed to be a physical manifestation of the bride’s purity in mind, body and soul. Yet if you think of it, most brides probably only fit one of these descriptors. There or great numbers of people being married every day who have had unclean thoughts or are going into their marriages not being a virgin, so should they still wear the white? Most people would say it’s their choice. However, if they are having a Christian wedding, should they not actually follow the teachings of their religion?

Just food for thought.

Reflections of the Past

“There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.”

-Ernest Hemingway


This quote is one that until recently, I had absolutely no clue existed. I heard it from a friend of mine after he heard that I was going back to school and that I was going to have to take a couple of writing/composition classes. I started thinking about this quote for seemingly hours after our conversation. I wanted to dive deep into the words, forage around, and find the true meaning of the quote. At first I thought Ernest Hemingway was just saying that you sit at a typewriter and just let the words flow out as if it were blood. However, the more I thought about this quote, the more I thought I was wrong initially. You see, it was at about this time that I also saw a quote that when mixed in with other thoughts in the recesses of my brain, decided it was going to completely change my thoughts on Ernest Hemingway’s quote.


“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”

-Maya Angelou


Maybe after reading this second quote, you started to go down the same neural pathways that I did or maybe it didn’t change your thoughts at all. But when I read these two quotes together, I find a whole new meaning in the former. I started to think, maybe Ernest Hemingway wasn’t just talking about sitting down and letting your thoughts pour out, maybe he was speaking to something much greater. Maybe he was saying all you do is sit at a typewriter and allow your soul to pour out. The words, ideas, stories, and thoughts that you keep deep inside in the darkest corners of your thoughts, just let them out. If you do this, instead of attempting to force the writing, everything will become much easier for you. I attribute much of my success in my writing class to this quote and how it has helped me mold the way that I write.

It was from quotes like these with the addition of my writing class that I have started to learn the true strength of writing. Something that is effectively written, whether it’s a song, essay, blog post or even a Facebook status can get meaning across better than almost any other form of communication. It allows you to sit down and filter out all your filler thoughts in order to get down to the sharp point that words can create. With this said, I want to leave you all with one last reminder of how strong words can be.


“Words can be like X-rays if you use them properly — they’ll go through anything. You read and you’re pierced.”

-Aldous Huxley

Ugly or Artful? A Closer Look at Our Language

As someone who never really thought of himself as a writer, I also became someone who never really thought much of the language I used. If I honestly take a close look at the way that I personally use the English language, I butcher it. If you were to visualize my use of the English language, you could think of it as akin to something like someone who has never filleted a fish, trying to do so on a very large, very expensive fish. The fillets often come out ugly and are pretty chopped up. Now luckily enough for me, when I’m writing, regardless of what it is, I have time to think through what I’m going to write down. I also have the ability to erase, delete, and edit what I’ve written. You can’t do that when you talk though, and that’s where someone like me gets into a lot of trouble. I’m sure many of you have heard the saying “he/she curses like a sailor”, well I am that sailor. Well, I was that sailor at one point. I am a Naval veteran and as many of my brothers and sisters around the world who have served or are still currently serving will tell you, we often curse…a lot. I would find myself often, using what more than likely was bad grammar but also throwing in curse words left and right. Honestly, I still do use a lot of curse words. Now here is the problem with me “colorful” use of language. It more often than not, is taken the wrong way (especially when heard out of context) or it is considered to be unprofessional. We of course could get into the background of different curse words but that would be besides the point and would more than likely would need it’s own entry, considering my feelings on the subject.

The meat of what I am writing comes down to how my use of language impacts different situations that I am in. People often have many different reactions to my “colorful” language. Some think that it is a sign of a lower intelligence level, some think that because I didn’t read enough growing up that my vocabulary is limited and therefore I use curse words, but others, such as my friends understand that I use the “colorful” language that I do, because I like it. I have found that though, not perfect for all situations, the language that I use and how I use that language has a strong impact on the situations I put myself in. It has a way of getting my point across much more directly than any other way of communicating that I’ve been able to find. I believe that this is because of how basic it is. Everyone can understand what you’re feeling or what you think about something based on the inflection of your voice or what kinds of words you use in speech and writing. If I were to use other words when I speak, people might be able to know how I feel about something, but of course there is no guarantee that those same people will actually understand the words that are coming out of my mouth. It is because of this that I choose to continuously keep my language colorful and basic and I honestly couldn’t care less about how most people feel about it.

A Writer’s Reflection

To be honest, I’ve never honestly looked at myself as a writer. Am I truly a writer? If I were to compare to myself to some of my favorite writers than no, I’m not. But what really is a writer? Webster’s Online Dictionary defines a writer as “someone whose work is to write books, poems, stories, etc.” or “someone who has written something”. Now if we define writer the same way that Webster’s does, all of us are writers. We’ve all written something in our lives whether it be essays during schooling, an email to a friend or family, a post on a social media site, or a blog post such as this. So yes, I am a writer and so are you. All of our experiences as writers differ. There are some who have gone to the farthest reaches of the earth to write stories about unseen cultures, others have written about their travels and exotic foods they may have come across, others write about the daily news happening locally and internationally. But regardless, we all have some sort of experience with writing. This is my reflection on my writing experience and hopefully it will not only help me in future writing endeavors, but will also help others in their own.

Academia – Writing in school was always something I dreaded growing up. It was not something that I could look forward to and it was not because a lack of trust in my ability. I honestly knew that if I were willing to put forth the work necessary, I could write well and be successful in school doing so. However, as an adolescent, I lacked the drive and willingness to write. When an assignment would come across my desk or be written on the board, the first thing my eyes would do is look at the amount of words required in said assignment. If when I looked at it, it showed more than 500 words, I automatically shut down. You see, I knew that I could sit down and write down a paper that was less than 500 words easily in a single sitting with a can of coke and my headphones in while listening to whatever music that I fancied at the time. But when it came to something longer than this, I knew it would require actual work. Work for me in high school was the last thing on my mind. Like many of my peers, my focus was on sports, girls, and whatever party was going on that weekend. It wasn’t until I left school that I found the power that words held. Throughout my schooling I of course had to read great works written for different reasons that could all resonate with you in one way or another. Whether it be something from Hemingway, a great speech from someone like Martin Luther King, Jr., an editorial on current events, or even the emotions that can be stirred up by a well written song. It was when I realized the power that words hold, that I eventually began to love, understand, and admire the works of authors, speechwriters, songwriters, and even bloggers. Because of my late intellectual blooming in the aspect of writing, I failed as a writer throughout my adolescence. And this is something that has haunted me to this day.

Emergence of a Thinker – After my adolescence I soon went through a period that I fondly refer to as my “academic renaissance”. This was a period of time that I think many of us have gone through whether we realize it or not. This the time that I thought I was smarter than my peers. I knew there were others out there who were and still are much more intelligent than myself, but during this time, those people were like a mathematical outlier. They weren’t things that I cared too much about because they skewed not only the perception I had of my own intelligence, but also the average for human intelligence that I had developed. Because of this very reason, I blocked those people out. I made special exceptions now and then for people who were thought of as great thinkers but were dead because those people didn’t factor in to current societies average intelligence in my book. People like Nietzsche, Plato, Socrates, and many others were people that I looked up to, even though they were obviously of greater intelligence levels than myself. These were people that, again, were dead and therefore didn’t factor into my current way of looking at society. It wasn’t until I became interested in things bigger than myself that I began to shred this antiquated and frankly immature way of thinking. I began to look introspectively and really tear apart the world that I built up around myself. This was a time of great awakening for myself. I started looking at the world around myself as something that I needed to better myself because of, instead of being better than. It is this period of time that I find myself in now. The time that I once again appreciate the power of words and the things that words can accomplish. Our words, whether written or spoken, have great importance on society. Words has caused and ended wars, they have built and crumbled entire empires, they have fostered religions and some of the greatest free thinkers the world has seen, and they still to this day affect each and every single one of us on a daily basis. Our ability to use our words in a distinct manner can help relieve our stress, can help us express empathy for a loved one, can help us express our passion or disgust for a specific topic, and as we see on a daily basis, can become a foundation for others to build their opinions upon. And in a world of ever growing transparency, our choice of words is something that we constantly have to be on top of because of these very reasons.

It is for these reasons that I challenge anyone who may read this to reflect upon yourself as a writer, as a thinker, and as a speaker. Are you using your talent and intelligence to the best of your ability? I can personally admit that I am not, but because of this, I seek to better myself in this arena on a daily basis. Can you say the same for yourself?